A Long-Distance Friendship Fix

on February 19, 2019

On my recent visit to my hometown in Gulf Shores, Alabama, I reconnected with my friends. My friendships are valuable to me and moving away doesn’t have to mean you stop being friends; it means you have to figure out how to keep the connections alive.

Distance can separate friends and love ones physically, but not emotionally or spiritually. True friends don’t allow a move to sever their bond. Long distance friends are the first ones I call to help me rejoice over a new home, a marriage, the birth of a grandchild, a career change, or anything that is significant. Real friends that make an effort to remain close are considered treasures. They make milestones in our lives a happier time. They sharpen our senses, challenge our mentality, and support us emotionally. They don’t dismiss the friendship in hard times, struggles, sickness, and loss either. They weep with us, show love and offer comfort. They help carry our burdens. What we lack in face-to-face contact with a distant friend can be made up of conversations by facetime, or phone. There is always e-mail or texting. Better yet, A surprise card in the mail.

  • Here are five steps to strengthen a long-distance friendship.
  • Encourage one another and build each other up. We remember friends that cheer us on.
  • Be quick to listen and slow to speak. Everyone loves a good listener.
  • Pray for one another. You can’t forget the ones you pray over.
  • Don’t let pride come between friends. Does it matter who contacted the other one first?
  • Love intentionally. Friendships taken for granted won’t last.

It’s never too late to start the friendship ball rolling. If you have a great friend who lives in another town, keep them close to your heart. It’s not that hard to get a friendship fix. Jump in your car and plan a weekend get-a-way, make time for a visit, or pick up the phone and bring a smile to someone’s day—Your smile might be broader than theirs.

What long distant friendships are essential to you and why? List a few qualities you look for in a true friend?

20 thoughts on “A Long-Distance Friendship Fix”

  1. Ashley Walls says:

    It was great meeting you and putting a face to the name. Here’s to our new long-distance friendship 🙂

    1. Linda Ray Center says:

      I feel the same way, Ash! Here’s to many more years together.

  2. Nancy says:

    Love and miss you. Can’t wait until you get back home!

    1. Linda Ray Center says:

      Backatcha, Friend. I’ve been thinking a lot about you lately. I miss our girl time.

  3. Diane Clark says:

    It was great reconnecting with you on your recent visit to Gulf Shores. I especially enjoyed sharing the Garden Club Seminar with you! Hope you can stay in our guest suite next year at the beach!

    1. Linda Ray Center says:

      Thanks for your generosity, Diane. You always go that extra mile.

  4. Deborah Aldridge says:

    I have so very many long distance friendships from our years of military service. I treasure each one and we are always there for each other in good times and bad. We also make the effort to travel together and visit as often as possible. We exchange recipes and ideas just like we did next door to one another. When you stay connected, it’s so easy to pick up where you left off.

    1. Linda Ray Center says:

      Debra,
      You took the words right out of my mouth. Traveling is always special, but add friends hooking up along with it, and it makes the trip even better.

  5. Jenni Tyler says:

    So happy you got to attend our Floral Seminar, so more of your Garden Club friends got to see you! You are definitely missed. Thank you for your encouragement and support even long distance! Love you, Jenni Tyler

    1. Linda Ray Center says:

      It was a great day, Jenni, but it was difficult not to jump up and do something. GSGC is a blessing to the community. Flowers at their best reminds me of blooming friendships.

  6. Marieta Kerley says:

    Tomorrow a long time dear friend is moving to Virginia (11 hours away). She is almost 80 and has no family here. Both sons live several hours away. Her son in VA has built a small apartment onto his house just for her. I know this move is best for her. I probably won’t see her again untll heaven and it was so hard to say goodbye. In these types of relationships it is so comforting to know we both know Jesus! Through our relationship with Jesus, we will never really be apart, for very long anyway.

    1. Linda Ray Center says:

      Yes, Jesus is our reassurance we will be with our loved ones again. There will be no more sadness, tears or goodbyes, only rejoicing.

  7. Anne Syphard says:

    Some of my dearest friends are long distance. You are now one of them as well.

    1. Linda Ray Center says:

      Distance makes the heart grow fonder! L.C.

  8. Charlotte Black says:

    My sweet friend and always next door neighbor, I love you. Your room is always ready. These words on long distance friendships are so true. Thank you for posting! I love you.

  9. Alejandra Southerland says:

    Being from another country I have lots of friends in Mexico and as you said, distance doesn’t mean that we are not friends no more. Thanks to technology I am now more connected to several of them. Friendship for me is part of who I am. I love you and I am glad that we get to see each other in the Garden Club Seminar. Nothing more precious that knowing that we still friends even though the distance.
    Love you
    Ale

    1. Linda Ray Center says:

      Remember, Ale, My door is always open for a visit. Take care of yourself.

  10. Amy says:

    Beautiful reminder. Thank you!

    1. Linda Ray Center says:

      Thank you for your sweet reply.
      Linda

  11. Diane Clark says:

    You are a champion at maintaining long distance friendships! I was especially moved by “Love Intentionally! We observed a relative that bought a fixer-upper become fast friends with folks who were handy as well as those who would babysit for free. Soon they wore out their welcome and wondered why they were so “alone…” Not sure if they learned anything but it was a reminder for us to continue to “do unto others…” God bless you for the wisdom you impart through this blog!

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